Friday, May 3, 2013

What to say: Their name

This one's really easy. If you would like to know something to say to a bereaved parent, say their child's name. You won't make them sad by bringing up their child, because it's likely they are already thinking about their child. Remember - you won't make them sad by bringing up their child!! It's nice knowing they are remembered, even though time and life keeps going.

Some suggestions (although you should replace 'Ariella' with the correct name for the situation!):
  • Instead of I'm sorry about what happened, try I'm sorry about Ariella
  • Instead of I'm sorry for your loss, try I'm sorry you lost Ariella
  • Instead of Congratulations on giving birth, try Congratulations on birthing Ariella
It's not that the first options are bad, it's just that there is something special about hearing your child's name. After all, it was chosen because the parents loved it. If their child had lived, they'd be hearing it every day for years and years. When their child dies, it means they won't get to say or hear the name as often. If you think they've chosen a beautiful name, tell them! One lady told me that "Ariella Jade" sounded like a song. I loved hearing that. And if you don't like the name...keep that view to yourself (!!), but still use the child's name. Please. The parents will love it.


Rebecca said...

How did you say her name was pronounced again? You mentioned it once, and I keep trying to remember it, but I forget. I want to say "airy-ella" but I'm pretty sure that's not what you'd said.

Larissa said...

R-E-ella. Are-ee-ella. I'm not sure which way to put it, because you'd pronounce some things differently. To me, both ways I put sound the same...don't know if that's the case for you?

Anonymous said...

Great Blog !!

my songs

Larissa said...

Thank you :)

Sarah said...
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Sarah said...

I agree, Ariella Jade has a lovely sing-songy sound. Perfect for your sweet girl <3

Larissa said...

Thank you Sarah.

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