Saturday, February 22, 2014

I Never Knew

I never knew it would hurt this much. That almost 13 months later the pain would be just as raw even if the tears don't always flow so freely. 

I never knew it would be so hard to use basic terminology. That words like dead, funeral and grave would be replaced by stillborn, service and special place because my broken heart can barely cope with using the others in connection with my daughter. 

I never knew that I could feel so much guilt for something that wasn't my fault. That I would have to battle so hard against the lies of the enemy in order to simply glimpse the truth, yet alone believe it. 

I never knew how desperately I would wish that I could visit Heaven. That a beautiful sunset could bring me to tears as I wished the clouds were stairs. 


I never knew how frequently I would get asked if Levi was my first child. That at least once a week my heart would begin to pound as I worked out what to say. 

I never knew that sometimes I would answer yes to that question. That I would deny Ariella's existence to protect my heart from breaking or even just to save a stranger from feeling awkward.

I never knew I could miss someone so much. That my heart could be so full and so empty at the same time. 


4 comments:

Unknown said...

14 months for me Larissa :( all those feelings.....

mother of 5 said...

I am deeply sorry for you loss. I wish I could tell you it hurts less, but the pain ia just as harsh 3 years later. But, the pain comes less often, the stabbing ache when you get asked fades a little quicker. My twin angels were born June 2011, they are my youngest. I suggest the eternal attonment, a book that gives strength for those things happeneing in our lives.

Larissa said...

It's hard, isn't it...

Larissa said...

Thank you for sharing with me

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